1. Adapting takes work. Especially if you're traveling with a three year old. Normally, I'm what you'd call a "control freak". I am organized and like things my way. Here, though, I'm at lots of mercies-- the program director's, the weather, the language barrier, jet lag, and my family--and I have to remind myself each day that changing, adapting, and stepping out of my comfort zone is part of the whole experience. Letting go is a process for me.

2. Comfort is important, too. We haven't been nose- deep in a guidebook this week--as a matter of fact, we didn't even have one for our city until yesterday. This allowed us to build a routine, explore local places, and become comfortable with our surroundings without rushing to see sights. This has been really important for CC-- she needs to feel like this is home, since we still have three full weeks of living here.

3. Kindness is key. This is always important, but when you and your spouse are in close quarters, jet lagged, out of your element, and dealing with a mercurial child, taking a breath and being kind goes a long way. FabHusband is Fab always, and it serves me well to remember--and be appreciative-- of that.

4. Sestina is the way to go. For the first few days we were here, adapting to the time change meant staying awake all day and getting back on to our routine. But now that we're over the worst of the jet lag...well, the Italians close up shop in the heat of the day for a reason, people. Even though the weather has been molto cooperative, I have to say it's nice to chill out and relax for a bit before hitting the street after dinner. Even the littlest kids are in the street with their families at 11pm. We're not quite at that level, but 9-9:30? Doable.

5. Put yourself out there. See number one, especially in regards to the language barrier. The more Italian I stumble through, the more comfortable I feel in new situations. I can already order like a pro, and am working on small talk. Plus, a big smile doesn't hurt.